Love Listens

Listening and asking questions are terrific ways to show love in everyday life!    Listening is such a gift, but it is often hard to give others.  It goes against our self-contentedness and desire to get things done.  Listening requires intentionality and practice; it takes a little effort to mentally and relationally connect with another person!  For more ideas on asking questions, take a peek at last week’s post .

Here are five ideas that will help you grow the skill of listening:

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Love Asks Questions

Each time I saw this friend, she would ask a question about something I had mentioned the last time we talked.  The question might be about something I was planning to do or something that was on my heart.  This told me she had really been listening to me.  Her question made me feel like I was loved and paid attention to!  She inspired me to try to ask questions more with others I knew.

Asking questions is a skill for loving well!   It accomplishes at least four things:

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Learning and Growing Together {Home, Part 7}

This is the final post in a series of posts on how home is the starting place for lived-out-love – a place where the needs of the whole person are cared for.  This week we’ll consider how we care for each others’ need to learn and grow as individuals, which includes encouraging and celebrating each other!  Over a series of six posts, we’ve explored the physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual aspects of home. We also considered how we extend love to others beyond our home.  Home looks different throughout the seasons of life; yet we all need these aspects of home and can build them in intentional and creative ways!  I began this series with this verse:

“The wisest of women builds her house …”  ~Proverbs 14:1

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An Open Door {Home, Part 5}

{Home is the starting place for lived-out-love, a place where the needs of the whole person are cared for.  This post explores the relational care we extend to others beyond our household.}

Each of our homes has a front door.  I imagine each person in our household coming and going, and other people being welcomed in.  My husband Richard engages with many people at the university, the girls are a helpful and friendly part of their school community, and I run errands or spend my morning at MOPS as a mentor mom.  Neighbor kids come play and a small group Bible study meets in our home.IMG_20171101_150436459.jpg

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Our Closest Relationships {Home, Part 4}

{Home is the starting place for lived-out-love, a place where the needs of the whole person are cared for.  This post explores relational care within our home.}

Our homes are like classrooms for learning to love well, in the context of our closest relationships. Our families of origin play a significant role in shaping how we relate with people. As we go through life, we continue to learn and grow as well!  We can thoughtfully learn from our mistakes, from other people, and from helpful books.  We have the ability to make choices so we continue to grow.  If we have children at home, this is where they learn social skills and can grow a heart of love toward others that is natural to them.


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